For Single Women Oh No! Its That Time Of Year Again-kamikaze love

Marriage-Wedding Single Women (always been single and single again by virtue of divorce or death) tell me the two days they hate the most are December 31 and February 14 New Years Eve and Valentines Day. Why? Because in our society, these are days specifically designed for people who have a special someone in their lives. They have be.e noted for lovers, people with partners, who will wine and dine them, gift them, spout poetry and love songs to them. No doubt, you have noted that New Years Eve is .ing up. Who says, though, they typical images of dancing beneath the starts, snuggling in front of a fire, kissing under the mistletoe are the only possibilities? Who says you have to see New Years Eve as an evening for lovers? In my clinical experience with single women, I hear how painful this night is. Janice, an Always Single woman told me, I hide out, eating myself into oblivion while watching old love stories. Then I cry myself to sleep. I hope next December 31 will be different, which only makes me more miserable, since I recall having said that last December 31. Charlene, a divorced woman with three grown children, has a slightly different take. I cry myself to sleep New Years Eve after hours of remembering how wonderful it was in the early ears with Jack, and later after he left, with my kids. We had such fun. I dont miss him, but its really painful missing the fun and the closeness we had watching the ball drop. Now, no kids and no man. I HATE December 31. This year, try something different. You take charge of defining what New Years Eve should be. Be gentle and loving with yourself. Make it a gentle and loving evening, whether with good friends or by yourself. For instance, design this night for your closest women friends. Have everyone bring food and positive stories from the year that is ending. Have them bring items representing something they are looking forward to in the up.ing year. Forbid the mention of that three-letter word (men). This evening is just for women you love, and for your hopes and plans for the .ing year ones under your control. (Its fine to dream about men, but you have no control in making an emotionally appropriate man appear in your life.) Another example: Invite a group of friends women and men, couples/married and single. With the exception of romantic newly weds, many couples would be delighted to join you; they dont have the same .punction singles do to have a romantic evening. Enjoy playing games, singing songs, telling stories. Be silly if you want. Its your night; design it as you want. For those who really want to be alone, make it a pleasant evening, not a hid-away or pity-party evening. Have your favorite dinner, listen to favorite music (avoid romantic songs), read a book or watch an old movie (avoid the romantic ones). Plan a winter vacation, with friends or alone, something to give you pleasure. Consider a fun and life-changing weekend, like Unique Retreats for Single Women, joining like-minded singles for a new perspective of being single in a world that values marriage. However you choose to spend the evening of December 31, 2012, dont let societys prejudice about singles besmirch your night. About the Author: 相关的主题文章: